While I guess you could say face-masks are not exactly, “feminist” in and of themselves, taking some time to show yourself some love is empowering and liberating for you, as a feminist! I know that I often put self-care at the end of my daily task list, and almost never actually get to it; but a face mask is an excuse to take at least 10 minutes to yourself!
Yes To sent me a bunch of stuff in the mail, but my favorite was the Yes To Tomatoes DIY charcoal mask! My skin is very oily, and it helped reduce those oils and revitalize my skin.
Along with the Yes To Tomatoes DIY mask, I also received:
Yes To Coconut DIY Mask
Yes To Cotton Comforting Mud Mask
Yes To Grapefruit Vitamin C Glow Boosting Mud Mask
Yes To Grapefruit 2-Step Face Kit
Yes To Coconut 2-Step Lip Kit
I can’t wait to continue trying all of these! I was pleasantly surprised with the masks I’ve tried so far– I generally try to use a face-mask once a week, or once every other week to rejuvenate my skin.
One thing I do LOVE about Yes To, is that they are cruelty free! They don’t test on animals, and for the majority of their products, they are vegan. Just perfect.
I highly recommend checking them out, and following them on Instagram: @yestocarrots. #YesToDIYMasks
Hello lovelies! For today’s post I’m going to give an update on my daith piercing, as well as some tips and tricks to get rid of those pesky daith bumps!
While researching, I saw some forum-related posts about daith bumps, but not any formal blog posts that are more informative. However, I recently got my first (keloid, I believe) bump and I’m in the process of healing it!
Just a quick summary: I got my daith pierced on February 24th, 2017. I changed the rod out for a ring after 7 weeks, and I didn’t get my first bump until June! Also, yes, my daith piercing has helped my migraines despite what my lovely piercer Eric (Props to New Vision if you’re in the Gainesville area) told me. Even if it’s the placebo effect, I’ll take it!
So, today is the first day I realized I had a bump! I turned to many forum websites to research further about it, and talked to a couple of my friends who have dealt with cartilage piercings as well.
Don’t fret! If you have a cartilage bump, they are normal! They stem from wounds trying to heal. Your piercing is a foreign object to your body, and it’s trying to push it out. To avoid these kinds of bumps avoid aggressive cleaning, and don’t sleep on the side the piercing is until it’s FULLY healed.
Daiths, unfortunately, are tricky in the healing process. Most websites say the healing time is 6 months to a year, while my piercer replaced my jewelry around 7-weeks and told me it had “healed nicely.”
Just clean them every day and take good care of your ear!
So after I did further research, I found that the most productive method of healing cartilage bumps is sea salt soaks. However, the daith is such a weird spot, I wanted to find a way to avoid sticking my entire ear in a bowl of hot sea salt water– and I did! As a bonus, it seems to be working!
The Healing Process
So my bump is already looking better! The method I discovered for cleaning it requires three things:
What I’ve been doing so far is spraying the wound wash onto a cotton round, and folding the round up and holding it on my bump. Basically, I soak the bump for around 2-3 minutes twice a day; this is essentially the sea salt soak, but in an easier way!
Then once a day, or once every other day, I put a couple drops of tea tree oil on the cotton round and dab it onto the bump. Tea tree oil can be irritating for some people, and if that happens to you stop using it. However, I saw many great reviews on using it for cartilage bumps, and it seems to be helping me as well! I also use it for my acne when I have a bad break out.
It may not look it, but the bump is a lot smaller today.
After about a week the bump should be gone or almost gone! If you have more questions or concerns, go talk to your piercer and find out what works best for you.
Hello my feminist friends! My post today is going to feature some rad ladies who volunteered to answer the question, “Why are you a feminist?”
But that’s not all!
I’m working in collaboration with my gal Annabelle, and you can check out her blog here. We reached out to friends and other bloggers to tell us a little bit about why they are a feminist. And guess what? This is only part one!
My next blog post will also be a collaboration with Annabelle about why WE are feminists, so stay tuned for that! For now, here’s a sneak peak…
Katiee: “I’m a feminist because first and foremost, I believe in equality. I believe in equal wages, equal rhetoric, equal dress codes, and equality in the workplace. I believe in ending rape culture. I believe in de-stigmatizing the period. I believe in women. I AM A FEMINIST.”
Annabelle: “I’m a feminist because I’m tired of seeing only men being taken seriously in the workforce. I’m tired of seeing women disrespected not only in the workforce, but also in the bedroom and in the streets. I’m tired of having to explain what consent is and still seeing girls raped and sexually assaulted. I’m a feminist because I believe in a woman’s power, even if others may not.”
Something about feminism is that everyone becomes a feminist based on different experiences they have. I’ve learned a lot from these ladies and their powerful language about feminism, and how they started being a part of the movement for equality.
First up, is Nicky Jacks!
“I’m a feminist for a seriously long list of reasons. The main being that I don’t want anyone in this planet’s level of success to be determined by their gender or the gender they choose to identify as.
I am a feminist because it genuinely makes me want to tear my hair out that the first question women are often asked when they have been raped is ‘what were you wearing?’.
I am a feminist because a natural bodily function such as menstruation should never make a woman feel dirty, embarrassed or weak. And I don’t want those woman who don’t menstruate or are unable to conceive to feel like failures either.
I am a feminist because I want to feel respected by the men i work with and claim to be my friends. And I also want them to feel that expressing emotion the way I do does not make them weak. It makes them human, just like me.
I am a feminist because when I go out I don’t want to rely on the ‘I have a boyfriend’ excuse to keep men undressing me whether that be mentally or physically.
I am a feminist because as a black belt in Taekwondo I find it offensive when I am told I punch or kick ‘like a girl’ as if it’s an insult.
I am a feminist because if I hear someone telling me to take catcalling as a compliment one more time I might scream.
I am a feminist, because I want everyone to have control over their bodies, identities and the path they choose to take in life.”
“I am the granddaughter of a Nazi hunter and the first female head teacher of a secondary comprehensive school, the niece of one of the first female graduates of the prestigious Liverpool university architecture school and the daughter of the first female union representative at the Bank of England.
My father told me that I could be the best at anything I tried. I grew up on a horse farm and I saw that it was possible every time I competed against the boys in my contests.
I will never be able to thank them enough.
My family was ‘weird’ by most standards. A drag queen, a pro domme, a male feminist…they taught me that I could be me.
When I left home in 1993 a new distraction entered the mix. Boys. My father had just died and I wanted something that they just couldn’t provide – security. I had to learn to provide it for myself.
I was a feminist in the 90s. That was quite rare back then. We dropped the ball. We thought we had it all figured out. To be fair, things were very different back then. We took control of our sexuality. I remember walking back to my flat after a one night stand. I felt like I owned the night. Not now. Not at all.
As the new millennium dawned things seemed to shift. We wanted to be ladylike. Why I do not know. I even wore a girdle. I was thin as well. I voluntarily put my body in a vice.
My single friends started to notice a change.
Sex was demanding. The old ritual of unwrapping and missionary style sex the first time flew out the window. That’s tough as you approach 30. Porn had upped the ante… I’m sex positive but who doesn’t want to feel cared for the first time?
During that period I was trying to forge a career.
I was really competitive with men at work – because I looked young and liked fashion I was perceived as being lightweight and silly and I had to work twice as hard…but I would put my boobs on a bar to get served first.
Part time feminism at its best.
In 2010 I found out that I was pregnant…and I fell apart. I became a stay at home mum for a while. I hated it. I couldn’t win. I didn’t excel at all.
Ironically I really became an activist then! I realized that I could use my skills to generate awareness and change things for the little girls I adored. Actually I realized that I had to do that.
I did it in an odd order – body positivity, anger about pay inequality and the fact that mothers become invisible, hitting my sexual peak, the breakdown of my marriage, working with sex workers, drag queens and a man in the process of transitioning to womanhood – they all contributed.
Then my marriage imploded – and I had to become independent and provide for my family.
It’s been quite a journey. And a bumpy ride.
Motherhood changed me and feminism is amazingly valuable to mothers. Every single one. From the sexual act to the actual life you lead afterwards.
Contraception, consent, conception – all are political acts in a small but highly meaningful way to woman. The choices we have in life are limited by a lack of socioeconomic parity and the fact that men still control our bodily autonomy. We need more representation and we need to be taken seriously. We aren’t now and I’ll damn myself if I don’t do everything I can to change that for my daughters.
That’s why I’m a feminist.”
Hello lovelies! Today for my “make a change” post, I decided to talk about a cause that also aligns with my intersectional feminist beliefs; FEM Project.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a FEMbassador, meaning that I am an affiliate of FEM Project. However, the reason I got involved with them all has to do with social media and my never-ending Instagram obsession.
Before I delve into all that FEM entails, I thought I would share my period-horror story to combat the idea that menstruation is “gross” and “unnatural.” This is a part of who women are (and other’s that menstruate) and is a normal part of life!
When I was in middle school, I attended a Valentine’s Day dance lesson, essentially just a partner dance class. A boy I liked was supposed to meet me there to dance with me, but he never showed up. When I went to the restroom later that night, I had a new friend. SURPRISE! My period had arrived. I was so embarrassed, and had to call my grandmother to come get me. She helped me and gave me feminine hygiene products as well– which is the most important thing.
Thus, let me tell you a little bit about FEM and what they’re doing to make an impact in the Los Angeles area. Hopefully they will continue to grow!
FEM’s mission is to destigmatize the period and empower women to own their femininity! (YES!) They do this by supplying menstrual products to women all over LA. Their fearless leaders are constantly working to make a change, and empower women to own their femininity every month– one tampon at a time!
Feminine hygiene products can cost up to $70 a year, and without them, women risk getting infections as well as habitual discomfort. FEM works to provide women that can’t otherwise afford these products with them, while also battling to change the conversation about the period.
Since getting involved with FEM, I’ve met so many feminist-frands and became part of a rad community of people fighting the period stigma!
The FEM community is filled with headstrong mama’s that have come together for this cause. I reached out and asked some of them why they love FEM–
@amy.moralesp: “I love that I’ve been able to forge friendships with some of the raddest people ever.”
@a_nnabae: “I love being a FEMbassador because it’s introduced me to an amazing group of empowered, kick-ass girls. Plus, it’s amazing knowing that I’m helping girls get the tools they need to prevent their period from interrupting their daily life. Tampons and pads are far more important than people realize.”
@venejasco: “I love being a FEMbassador because it signifies that women are now becoming more comfortable with talking about their period and body. We don’t care how it makes others feel because it’s normal and a part of our anatomy. It feels good to be amongst women who stand up for this and this and that we are able to give back to our community and women in it.”
@kate.ripley: “The FEMproject has been so much more than I ever thought it would be! Everyone is so friendly and the LA group is full of bad ass babes doing bad ass things. Everyone is so supportive and the goal of this organization is so kind and needed. I’m looking forward to being more and more involved as I continue to help plan period parties and meet ups!”
@ailirene: “Something that originally attracted me to the FEM Project is how this organization and platform honestly interacts with fem and period stigmas. I especially like the emphasis on homeless women, particularly in Los Angeles. Growing up as a lower-SES person of color in a small town on the port of LA—where the statistics on homelessness is consistently high—I have developed a huge heart for homeless individuals, especially women, in my area. I have worked in partnership with various organizations to aide individuals with various necessities, however, I would like to join a movement specifically working with women. I am passionate about social issues. I am passionate about individuals. We so often overlook the people around us and I am grateful for organizations like FEM Project, who are actively working to make a much needed change. I want to be part of this change.”
And, one of our fearless leaders, @isabel_fields: “Every cis-female (and others) gets their period; it isn’t weird or abnormal, in fact it happens every month like clockwork. There is simply no reason women should be made fun of, ostracized, or told that they are less because of the normal act of menstruation. Why is the fact that I’m bleeding out of my vagina weird? FEM bridges the gap between homeless women, by providing them menstrual care, and those with the ability to give back, by allowing them the opportunity and platform to not longer feel ashamed. FEMbassadors bring this opportunity to their communities bringing everything full circle! Truly, FEMbassadors are the heart and soul of FEM!”
Make sure to follow these lovely ladies on Instagram!
The stigma around menstruation creates a derogatory conversation that the ladies of FEM are trying to bring an end to by providing feminine hygiene product to homeless women in LA; however, you can get involved as well! If you follow one of the links below, you can find out how to set up your own “period party” where you package and deliver tampons and pads to local women’s homeless shelters in your area!
I’m proud to be a part of FEM and host my first period party sometime this summer. Let’s change the conversation, and have a celebration of menstruation!
In the midst of #PrideMonth, I am sitting here reflecting on my past with the LGBT+ community and how it has impacted me.
I remember sitting in my room on June 26th, and reaching for my phone. I logged onto Facebook (because that’s where everyone gets their news these days, right?) and I saw that LOVE WON. We did it.
As I raised my arms in celebration, I wondered why it has never been this way before. Why couldn’t people accept that love, in every form, is love? What is so hard to comprehend that sexuality is a spectrum?
While this baffled me, and still does to this day, I remember that not everyone can understand for the belief that it’s against their religion; or even coming down to being heterosexual and unable to relate to anyone that differs in sexuality. With “straight” being “normal” we are predisposed to the idea that any other sexuality is wrong.
We are taught that describing something as, “gay” is negative, and “no homo” is a phrase used to justify doing something semi-romantic with the same sex.
These are words we should stop using in derogatory ways.
The people in my life that identify as LGBT+ are the best people I know. I love them inside and out, and would never try to change them. Who am I to try to alter the way someone chooses to love?
The closer I am to the city, I more often see openly gay and lesbian couples, but in my small mountain-town it is a rarity. There is more of an elderly demographic, despite the college smack in the middle of town. However, the few people I do see that are out (my dear friends, you know who you are) are simply the happiest people I’ve ever known.
They’re absolutely beautiful, and this is what “normal” should look like.
So, we go to the pride festivals, we wear rainbow with tutu’s and knee-high socks. We celebrate love in it’s loveliest form: it’s true form.
Love does not take shape in one certain way; it comes in all shapes and sizes, and fills the hearts of everyone it touches.
Nashville may be known for its country music and constant flow of up and coming musicians, but it also is the home of some modern-aesthetic art and shops. My brother and I went to Nashville this week, and part of my mission while in the city was to discover as many wall murals and drink as much coffee as possible. I found some cute places and made the best of my three days in the city!
My favorite place in Nashville (and truly the reason my brother and I go so often) is The Soda Parlor. The Soda Parlor is a unique shop filled with every kind of ice cream float you can imagine, and all the nostalgic arcade games that are free to play! My brother and I could spend hours here (in fact, we have) but it’s even more special to us because it was created by comedian Olan Rogers, who we’ve watched on YouTube for years now. We actually met him at the grand opening!
I recommend, for all my vegan friends, trying the lavender-vanilla Italian soda! However, if you are eating dairy, my brother always gets the Moose-Tracks ice cream, double scoop!
Another thing I love about The Soda Parlor, is the upstairs area. You can play old school Nes, while also chilling on the couches up there. Super cozy. If you’re an Olan fan, he also has his merch available for purchase (I got some lightening socks and a sticker this time!)
While we’re thinking about restaurants, knowing me, I had to scope out the best coffee shop in Nashville. While I was out taking pictures of various murals (which we’ll get to next!) I passed Frothy Monkey Coffee House. While Frothy Monkey is also a restaurant that serves dinner and wine, they also have the *best* coffee, and alternative milk options!
Not to mention, Frothy Monkey is walking distance from all the cute art murals and flower shops in Nashville! I went to the 12th Ave location, and pretty much walked to all the murals I wanted to see (minus the infamous Nashville Gulch Wings, but they were only a few minutes away!)
I went to almost every single one! If you’re curious about the addresses, you can find them all on her blog post.
My favorite would have to be the “Make Music Not War” mural, that one was walking distance from Frothy Monkey! Also, check out @KelseyMontagueArt on Instagram, her wings are gorgeous and you can even peep the baby wings (perfect for a doggo) in the bottom right of the wings shot.
For more about my Nashville trip check out my Instagram: @rosecafletic
Also, let me know if you know some more cute places in Nashville I need to check out!
A little while ago one of my roommates told me that her friend was shooting for a project called, “The Naked Lady Project.” These portraits are about empowering women; all body shapes and sizes, this concept is about being inclusive and was tastefully presented.
Lauren, the artist behind the project, got approved by our university to display her art in our library, and while it has only been up for a few days, it has already started a conversation we should not even be having.
There are rumors that certain offices are trying to have the project taken down, and Lauren herself is aware of two official complaints that have been filed to the university.
These portraits are about empowering women in their most authentic form. Not only is the community trying to get Lauren’s photo stripped from their display, but social media has also had it taken down. Facebook and Instagram have both gotten her posts about the project taken down, and even my Instagram story about the project was removed for not “following community guidelines.”
I’ve also noticed throughout Instagram that pretty often photographers censor their photographs so that they won’t be taken down. This in and of itself is extremely frustrating to me. Having to censor your own works of art, because the “community” finds it offensive/inappropriate?
Here’s the thing: women’s bodies are BEAUTIFUL. NOT SEXUAL. They are only sexual if you make them, and by making them sexual you are objectifying women and THAT IS NOT OKAY.
The concept of Lauren’s art is beautiful. Promoting positive self body image is wonderful, and if you have a problem with it look away.
I guess I understand maybe not wanting small children to see aspects of the female anatomy that they don’t fully understand yet, but in a college university setting? Why would any small children be outside of our IT office in the library? Maybe they are, I don’t know.
But the fact that this project is being taken down on social media, fought against by the university, and laughed at (YES LAUGHED AT) by the students is disrespectful and by doing so these people lose the message this art is trying to send.
We are looking at Lauren’s art, not hyper-sexualized pornographic images. We are promoting positive body image, lifting up the strong women who posed for these portraits, and appreciating/empowering women as a whole. NOT sexualizing them, NOT objectifying them, and NOT disrespecting them.
I encourage you to share about Lauren’s project, show that we support this concept and appreciate Lauren and all the hard work she’s done on it. This conversation is important.
Let’s change the rhetoric around the sexual-nature of women’s bodies, starting with the planting of this seed.
Think of it as a pub crawl, but with coffee shops and loads of caffeine instead of alcohol.
My friend Rachel and I started doing this over the summer of 2016, where we selected several different coffee shops across the Atlanta/North Georgia area and tasted tons of different lattes as we became more and more jittery.
My favorite part about this adventure is discovering how many different ways I can order a vanilla latte. Since I’m vegan, I really just alternate between what milks I feel like using, but you know.
The best part about these coffee crawl days, is getting to snap pictures and capture the moments that mean so much to me.
After an entire year of writing for a platform I used to be passionate about, I left my position at Odyssey today. I originally wanted to write a final article, as a testament to my time creating content, but I realized I couldn’t publish a farewell article on Odyssey itself. So it’s time for a bitter-sweet goodbye to a platform that opened several opportunities for me.
Now, don’t get me wrong, Odyssey as a concept is genius. I love the idea of giving college students a voice, and being able to express ourselves in various ways. We get to connect to a larger community, while also connecting at home. We can write to an audience that hears us, listens to us, loves us. We get to add Odyssey to our resumes as an internship, and it opens a new door for us that wasn’t there before.
For that, Odyssey, I thank you.
However, it was time for me to go. I should explain, my Odyssey community had undergone a lot of changes. Our headquarter representative left, who we absolutely adored. Our EIC (who is also a close friend of mine) decided to leave too, and that was a blow to us. Then our new EIC took over, and while he does everything right, we were all still getting used to a new normal.
But even though things were operating as “normal”, that was what I was having a problem with.
In this day-and-age, most social media platforms are concerned primarily with monetary value above all else. For a platform like Odyssey, this takes shape in page views and share-ability.
Thus, all of the student-editors edit articles based on what will be successful on social media (i.e. Buzzfeed-esq list articles that are “relatable” to readers.)
Now this may not sound all that bad, but what kept becoming increasingly clear to me is that the entirety of my article could be changed with one small edit, and the tone would not be what I intended.
For example, I wrote an article about empowering feminist quotes, for the feminist community itself. These quotes are meant to build up women, and men too, about equality and inter-sectional feminism.
One of my editors changed the lede of the article to say, “Even if you don’t believe in feminism.”
This changed the tone of my article completely, because that was not what I intended. Not to mention, the editor also changed the title of my article.
And you know the best part? That article did very well, it was *featured* on Odyssey’s Activism page.
All of this for more page views, more shares, more likes.
But, at what price? My content being altered to say something I didn’t intend, with my name and reputation surrounding it.
This is just one example, I have so many close friends who have written and edited for Odyssey who feel the same. I’ve had people encourage me to blog to have more control over my content, and not be subject to the box of articles that do well.
I am thankful for every opportunity Odyssey has given me; I began blogging and publishing more work, I found other online writing opportunities. I began to discover myself, and feel comfortable publishing my original ideas.
But it’s time for me to go. In my honest opinion, Odyssey is a brilliant idea and has many hard-working individuals making it into something huge. I also understand that Odyssey is a growing business platform, and in order to do well, they have to push for their content to get out there. Page views, sharing, pushing for flashy click-bait articles. I get it.
Because of this, my heart was no longer in it. Writing for Odyssey became a chore, and that’s not why I started writing over a year ago.
If you’re going to create a platform for students to express their original thoughts and who they are, you have to act like it. When I edit any form of writing, I keep the author’s tone and point exactly how they have written it. I don’t change anything but the grammar and sentence structure, things of that nature.
So when an Odyssey editor takes an article and completely changes its tone, and then publishes it, there’s a problem. The restrictive nature of Odyssey’s in-the-Buzzfeed-box articles stifled me as a writer, and I know it has done the same for many writers as well.
I hope to see Odyssey continue to grow and hopefully change a little too; and I’m thankful for what the platform has given me, despite the blows I did have to deal with.
As a general rule, I believe reading the book before seeing the movie is a must; almost always (except in the case of Perks of Being a Wallflower) the book is better than the movie. So when Rachel and I found out that ~conveniently~ the book we had just finished for our book club was becoming a major motion picture, we knew we need to see it. With as little spoilers as possible, I’m going to give my genuine opinion about Before I Fall.
So, Rachel and I started a book club of literally just the two of us. (If you want to join, it’s Long Distance Lit on Goodreads!) While selecting our book for January, we picked Before I Fall, and thus started this revolution.
Honestly, the book took me forever to get started on, because it Lauren Oliver’s attention to detail is very specific. There are scenes that seem to drag on, and the repeating-days concept doesn’t help. However, once I started to get through it, I couldn’t put the book down until it was finished.
I love the dynamic of the characters, (Kent being my favorite) and watching as Sam learns some hard lessons was just as emotional for me as it was for her.
While I’m a sucker for puppy-love, I am glad that Sam didn’t have miraculous recovery and end up with Kent. That would’ve been too easy.
The ending, though, felt a little unresolved. I couldn’t place why, but I wanted more, and not in a cliffhanger-kind of way.
Alas, I gave the book 5/5 stars on Goodreads, because it really did captivate me.
As a pro-novel person, I went into the movie preparing it to disappoint me. And at first, it did. There were small details that differed from the book, some scenes were left out, and some characters had changed. My favorite concept of the novel was the teacher romance, and that dissipated as well.
However, I actually liked the movie better than the book. WHAT?
The movie perfectly encapsulated the most important concepts in the book (rip hot teacher romance), while also creating Sam’s world pretty accurately to how it is in the book.
The ending felt much more complete, as Sam says goodbye and thanks Juliet, because she set her free.
You can feel the emotion as Sam’s greatest hits go by, and for all you sympathetic criers out there, tissues are a must.
I would recommended reading the books first, because it provides a lot of insight into the characters that’s not completely shown in the film. There are little things that Sam doesn’t explain in the movie, that I only remembered because I had read the book.
I would give the movie 4.5/5, and change my book rating to 4/5.
Liked the movie/book? Join our bookclub or tweet me @rosecafletic and we can discuss it!