Today blog post, as per usual, is centered around something personal that I haven’t talked about much on my blog: concerts and terrorism.
What we see with these senseless attacks like Manchester is a rise of broken hearts. From the survivors, victims, artists, and people who find a save haven in going to concerts. There is a fear, now, at every concert that this show could be the one.
Going to concerts is my safe place. For a few hours, I am my happiest. I see the good in people, connect with thousands, hear songs live I had played in my bedroom while laying on the floor with incense burning. My heart over flows, quite literally with bass beats and drum solos. Tears fill my eyes when I see some of my favorite humans pouring their heart out on stage.
Being the girl that goes to concerts is my favorite description of myself, and I would be nothing without them.
I went to my first show when I was very young (I want to say 12-years-old?) and it was The Cheetah Girls ft Hannah Montana. I fell in love, and from that day forward the only thing I ever wanted as a gift was a pair of concert tickets.
Luckily, my step-mom has an identical taste in music to my own, and she became my concert buddy. We went to so many shows together. As I got older, I started to go with my friends and others. I would say I go to 4-8 concerts a year.
Each time, I have a small fear in the back of my mind that this show could be the one.
Concerts, music festivals, live shows, etc are not meant to be locations of terrorism. They are safe places, where you leave life’s problems at the door and come together to celebrate. We bond over our love for the artists, dance until our feet can’t move anymore, and sing at the top of our lungs. We are safe, there.
Or at least, we should be.
All I can tell you my friends, is be safe. Be proactive. Be observant. Don’t let you guard down and do everything you can to ensure you have a fun and safe time.
Love, be passionate, and look out for everyone, because you’re in this together.
As many of you who use Twitter know, #MeToo has been popping up everywhere the last week. This hashtag encourages survivors of sexual harassment to come out and share their stories, uplifting others who never could. #MeToo sprung seemingly in reaction to Harvey Weinstein’s sexual assault survivors speaking up about what he had done.
However, a decade ago Tarana Burke actually started the Me Too movement, and you can read more about that here.
What I want to talk to you about today, though, is the significance of this movement. Without disregarding Burke’s work, we can look at the movement as a whole and share stories to empower other survivors (yes, men can be survivors too) of sexual harassment and start to change the conversation surrounding sexual assault.
#MeToo is about sharing the interpersonal stories of horrible acts, because it can help someone. Someone out there who knows you knows now that you can relate to something they went to. That’s a powerful thing.
Most of the women I know have been sexually harassed in some form since they were teenagers (and younger.) I volunteer one weekend a month and work directly with sexual assault survivors: holding their hand in the hospital, talking to them, helping them to heal.
I work in a domestic violence shelter, where a lot of survivors often were sexually harassed as well.
I see this every day. I know how strong these survivors are.
#MeToo highlights the strength that our world has to uplift each other. We can make a change simply by saying two words.
I encourage you, my feminist friends, if you are comfortable– write out the hashtag, repost a picture, encourage someone to show their strength.
Sexual harassment, by definition, is: harassment (typically of a woman, but not always) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.
#MeToo is a way for people to start a conversation around SH and SA. This is important; it’s a conversation worth talking through.
Around a year ago, I wrote an article for Odyssey called “The F Word” but I felt compelled to write somewhat of an update here. In my previous article I wrote a lot about how feminism is not a dirty word, and the effects that the negative rhetoric of our society on rape culture. I reiterated my point over and over, and I think I need something a little more fluid. Without further ado…
Feminism. What does it mean? To put it simply, feminism is the expression of equality among the sexes. Men and women are equal. Right?
Then why is it, that when I tell people I am a feminist, they look at me with disdain? Why is believing in equality something that is so radical? Emma Watson makes it look easy.
In my opinion, the extremist feminists are the ones that give this radical example. They are “men hating” and “bra burning”, which is not the point of feminism. If you hate men, you are not preaching equality, and those “crazy feminists” are the ones setting the standard for the no-so extreme.
Thus, when I have conversations with some of my liberal friends they often tell me that while they believe in the concepts feminists talk about, they don’t identify with feminism. Why?
I’ve also heard the argument that we should change the word feminism to equalism– which I can understand. But my argument to that is, FEMINISM IS NOT A DIRTY WORD.
This rhetoric around dirty feminism has nothing to do with what we are actually doing. Preaching equality, is not something that is men-bashing. I believe that I can do anything a man can do. I am smart, educated, and talented. Why can’t I be a doctor or a journalist? Why can’t I make the same amount of money as my male counterparts?
THAT is my goal. Wherever my career path takes me, I AM going to be making the same amount as my male colleagues doing the same job as me. I AM going to be worthy of my position, and I AM not going to stand for any different treatment just because I was born with a vagina.
Feminism is not a derogatory word. It is a safe word. Feminism means equality for the sexes. Simply, we are all equal.
Just because we have different anatomy, we are equal. We are powerful.
I love this gorgeous wooden watches, and the beautiful wooden box they came in; I’m super excited to be working with JORD. And, guess what! At the end of my post you’ll get a chance to enter a $100 giveaway with JORD! Even if you don’t win, you still get $25 to spend. How can you not enter?
If you’re like me and fall is your favorite season, it’s about time to get cozy with your coffee and a good book! However, sometimes us introverts have to go outside, and these unique wooden watches are the perfect accessory for that! The women’s wood watches (and men’s too) are so elegant, while also providing a casual charm. I’m obsessed with mine!
These cool watches are a must have this fall season. I know these kinds of posts aren’t my usual content, but I wouldn’t be writing this if I didn’t truly love the product!
I first heard about JORD through Youtuber Channon Rose. She’s one of my favorite influencers, and also partnered with JORD for these cool watches. She often gets some of the wooden watches for gifts for her family, and with this giveaway, these wood watches would be the perfect Christmas gift!
Today, I am putting together a little lookbook of 3/6 pairs of sunnies that Sunglass.la sent me! My friend Hunter and I braved the North Georgia heat to get these shots, and I honestly love how they came out.
Sunglass.la’s sunnies are really chic, and I was surprised how well they fit and at the overall quality of the glasses. Needless to say, I am obsessed.
This weeks post is a little different from my regular feminist hoopla, because it’s something very close to my heart.
If you don’t know about Last Man Standing, it’s a conservative family sit-com starring Tim Allen. Now, this does not sound like a show a liberal-feminist would watch, right? Wrong. And here’s why.
Contrary to popular belief, many of the characters on the show are liberal (Kris, Ryan, etc) and they are characters I love. The show is about more than Mike Baxter’s republican vlogs, it’s about family.
Baxter could be my father. From their love of hunting, football, red meat, and politics– I have never related to a family-man more. While I may not agree with Baxter’s politics, I find myself enjoying his take on life, because it resembles someone in mine.
This show highlights the significance of the family dynamic. Kris, who got pregnant in high-school, is showered with help and understanding from her sisters and parents. Mandy starts her own fashion brand, and becomes very successful, while working from her parents basement. Eve eventually gets into the air force academy, and her parents couldn’t be more proud.
Now, I am a sucker for a good sit-com, but this show is so much more than that. It shows that the family bond is stronger than any political view– and honestly, it’s a breath of hilarious fresh air because it’s not very common that you see conservative family comedy.
Last Man Standing was abruptly canceled, and many of the actors (including Allen) have said that they are upset about not being able to properly say goodbye. ABC has given inconclusive answers as to why they canceled the series, but it is speculated that it’s because of Baxter’s conservative political views.
CMT has been mentioned as far as wanting to reboot LMS for a season 7, and if that’s something you’re interested in you can sign this petition.
LMS is not just for conservatives, but it’s for anyone who enjoys a good comedy. It’s for everyone. And for me, I am upset they allegedly canceled the show because of someone expressing their political views.
Everyone’s voice deserves to be heard, despite who you voted for.
I recently had a chance to talk to Ellie Boothe, whom I met in a feminist club on my college campus. At one of our meetings, we talked about how Ellie is not only actively feminist, but she also identifies as pro-life. This is irregular in the feminist realm, simply because feminism is more aligned with pro-choice beliefs. My friends and I were intrigued, so I decided to ask Ellie a few questions!
Q: In your opinion, what does the term “feminism” mean to you? In my opinion, “feminism” can be defined as the equality of the sexes in social institutions including education, family, politics and the workforce.
Q: Similarly, what does “pro-life” mean to you? To me, “pro-life “does not end at being “pro-birth”. If an individual is to take the stance of being “pro-life” that individual must also be pro quality of life. Pro- life is more than just ensuring a child is born, but that that child enjoys a safe community, a quality public education and receives adequate health care regardless of the ability of the parents to provide these rights. If an individual claims a pro- life stance dedication to that life can not end at the birth of a child.
Q: Would you say that being a feminist conflicts with your pro-life beliefs? I do not say that claiming a pro-life stance conflicts with being a feminist. However, there are feminists who will make that accusation. I feel that the larger ideological umbrella of feminism, equality regardless of sex and gender, encompasses the pro-life movement.
Q: What is one thing you want the feminist community to understand about the pro-life stance?
I want the feminist community to know that as a member of the pro-life movement, my goal is not to end safe abortions to push women into unsafe and potentially deadly situations. Instead my goal is to ultimately end a need for abortion by perusing avenues such as effective sexual education, and access to family planning information and affordable birth control measures to prevent pregnancy, and, if pregnancy is not prevented, access to quality healthcare and general family welfare support after birth. I understand that to hold a pro-life view I need to be willing put forth my part in ending the need for the procedure by helping mommies and eventually adopting babies.
Q: What is your history with feminism, and also with pro-life?
I became a feminist in high school. I attended a rural high school in North Georgia where young women were repeatedly spoken down to and their opinions diminished. As I navigated conservative Appalachia, feminist rhetoric struck a chord with me. I sought feminist avenues while attending the University of North Georgia. I participated in the campus production of The Vagina Monologues for four years, serving on the board of directors my last year. In addition, I joined the club “ Dahlonega Feminist Egalitarian Movement “or “DFEM” my senior year.
As a child I attended Catholic school, which impressed upon me the sacredness of life from an early age. During high school, when I discovered feminism, I claimed to be pro-choice. I was a recovering conservative and wanted to be a cool liberal so I agreed with everything I thought would make me a better democrat. However, as I matured the holiness of human life was demonstrated to me repeatedly. As a college graduate, my stance as pro-life has been cemented.
Q: How do people react when they hear you are pro-life?
It depends on the social situation. In spaces such as a Vagina Monologues practice my being pro-life elicits surprise to say the least. Most feminists view being pro-choice a major requirement for identifying as a feminist so I usually encounter confusion and some negativity. However, in spaces such as church or family Christmas hearing that I am a feminist garners a negative reaction, so it’s a lose/lose.
Q: Are there any personal experiences you’d like to share that deal with being a pro-life feminist?
While not directly related to pro-life feminism, this experience altered the lens through which I view myself as a pro-lifer.
One of my best friends is Catholic. We were speaking one evening and I mentioned that I take an oral contraceptive for a pre-existing condition. Knowing I am pro-life, she noted that to her “I might as well have an abortion”if I were ever to be intimate with someone , as many Catholics believe that you are preventing life planned by God. I sat in stunned silence, feeling belittled and thinking that she made a ridiculous claim. However, upon further reflection, I realized that that is exactly how pro-choice women must feel in response to the pro-life platform. Since this encounter, I make a much greater effort to better explain my view without inadvertently making others feel belittled for their decisions or viewpoint, so we can reach a point of understanding.
Q: How has feminism affected your life? What is something you do in your daily life that stems from feminism?
Learning about feminism as a teenager helped open my eyes to large-scale institutionalized inequality. When I attended college I chose to study sociology to gain a better understanding of inequality in the world and how to diminish disparities between social groups. In my daily life, how I speak to and about other women has changed because of feminism. There are a lot of bad things that happen to women, my words should never be one of them.
Q: How do you feel about other women choosing to have an abortion, and thinking it’s the best option for them? (ie the baby having something wrong with them, or the mother could die giving birth, etc.)
I honestly hate abortion. But I will never hate a woman who makes that choice. In college I interned with a non-profit that worked with people with disabilities and their families. Every person with a “disability” that I know has a life with immeasurable value. Ability does not determine value. Every person has a gift to give and I believe every life has a purpose. I am not a mother. I cannot imagine the fear a mother must feel when she is told her child has not developed typically. However, I will do my best to contribute to providing resources for families with a member who is not developing typically. Quality, affordable healthcare and social support and both pivotal in the effort to end abortion as a response to having a child with different abilities.
I hope to God I am never put in the position to determine the course of action to be taken in a situation which could lead to my death in birth as a mother. I am in no position to criticize any woman who had to make that decision.
Q: What are your thoughts about Planned Parenthood and the other services it provides?
Other than abortion, I am supportive of everything Planned Parenthood does.
Q: How do you feel about sex education? For/against?
I am pro sex education. By effectively teaching young people how to practice safe sex you are effectively preventing unwanted pregnancies, STIs, and other unpleasant surprises.
Q: How does religion play a role in your pro-life beliefs? Do you believe in separation of church and state?
I would be lying if I said religion didn’t play a role in my pro-life beliefs. My religion plays a major role in all of my beliefs. In Psalm 139:13, David wrote “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mothers womb”. I feel that calls me to value life in the womb as well as life outside of it. Yes, I believe in separation of church and state. I feel that my role as someone who is anti-abortion is not to make all abortions illegal but to try to alleviate the need for abortion.
Thanks Ellie for your perspective! Remember to follow Ellie on Instagram.
If you’ve been following me for awhile, you know that I’ve been working in collaboration with Modern Gypsy as their guest blogger, but also as an ambassador. I’ve even got a discount code, which will be at the bottom of the post for you guys!
Modern Gypsy sent me some cute Ringo Sunnies and a Rose Chocker to model for them, and my gal Lindsay and I went out to shoot.
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Hello, my feminist friends! This week’s blog post is yet another collab with Annabelle! Check out her blog here. After writing our last post where we asked other bloggers why they were feminists, we got inspired to answer that question for ourselves!
But first, here’s a little sneak peak from Annabelle’s article: “I’m a feminist because I’m taught to never take drinks from strangers, as they could be roofied. I’m a feminist because I can’t walk home alone at night without worrying for my safety. I’m a feminist because men stare at my body instead of me. I’m a feminist because once when I asked a guy to stop, he kept going because he was “almost there…….”
Why am I a feminist?
I think it’s because I have never seen men and women as unequal. Thus, my feminist journey started at a very young age, I just didn’t have the words for it. I played outside with my brother and our friends, but I would also go inside and play with dolls. I was on sports teams from swim to flag football. I was, I guess, what you would refer to as a ‘tom-boy.’ Even the nickname itself is derogatory. I digress. I just never thought for a minute that I couldn’t do everything the boys around me could do– and I was right. As I got older and more politically involved, I’ve realized some things that make this belief even more pertinent in my everyday life.
First of all, the definition of feminism is: the advocacy of women’s rights based on THE EQUALITY of the sexes. WE ARE ALL EQUAL. However, it’s taken a minute for us to start making strides in that direction. For example, let’s talk about the wage gap. Women, on average, can do the exact same job as a man and get paid less money for it. Often, women in the work force are talked down to, interrupted, and not believed. Their skill sets do not matter, their education does not matter, their intelligence does not matter, all because we menstruate once a month. Now, don’t get me wrong, stay-at-home moms can still be badass feminists in their own right, because they are doing what empowers them! And guess what? Men can be feminists too.
I remember asking my dad (who is a very conservative person) if he was a feminist, to which he responded, “I don’t know about all that.” I said, “Daddy, if I had the same exact job as you and I did it just as well, do I deserve to make the same amount as you do?” To this he responded, “yes.” “Then Daddy, you’re a feminist.” But little did I know feminism was so much more than that.
I am a feminist because I believe in equality. I do not stand for condescending motions, and I will not in the future. Ever since I was old enough to put pen to paper, I’ve wanted to be a journalist. No, I don’t want to be the pretty face you see on the morning news, I want to be the one traveling the world reporting on crime and politics. I want a “man’s” job. But here’s the thing, I’m going to get it. I’m going to be a journalist one day in some form, I’m going to be one boss ass bitch. The world better watch out for me. And you can bet, if I don’t get paid the same amount as my male counterparts, there will be hell to pay.
Secondly, we need to talk about rape culture. “She was asking for it.” “What were you wearing?” All of this derogatory slander coming from the mouths of the uneducated. From my time of working with Rape Response, one thing I’ve learned is that is it NEVER the survivor’s fault. People like Brock Turner are being set free after raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster because Turner had “so much potential” and she was “asking for it.” NO. She was not asking for it, she could not even consent!
I am a feminist because I want to use my voice to change rape culture. I will not stand for this. When someone takes something so important to someone else away from them, without their permission, that in itself is horrible. Men can be sexually assaulted too. They are, in fact. I believe and support survivors. The conversation about rape culture has to change, starting with how women are looked at as sexual objects and not human beings. Screw you Brock Turner! There, somebody had to say it.
I am a feminist because I menstruate. I have a period, shocker! I shed my uterine walls and bleed out of my vagina once a month! I am not dirty. I do value hygiene. I wear pads. And guess what? Not for a second is that an unnatural thing, not for a second is that something I should be ashamed of. I am a woman, I can have children because of this! (Hopefully not anytime soon.) I am not afraid to talk about PMS, and in fact, I celebrate when I menstruate! My body’s a temple, and I will treat it as such. Every day, we fight the stigma around menstruation.
I am a feminist because I don’t want to rely on a man for a damn thing. Not for money, not for safety when walking at night, and not for an excuse to keep other men from undressing me in their mind. I am a feminist because I believe that wearing a tank top to school should not mean a change in dress code because it’s “distracting boys,” but rather that it should mean stricter education for young boys about how to respect women. I am a feminist because I believe in empowering women. I am a feminist because I believe in equality, and I have never looked back.
FEMINISM IS NOT A DIRTY WORD. Say it. Love it. Embrace it.