Hello my feminist friends! My post today is going to feature some rad ladies who volunteered to answer the question, “Why are you a feminist?”
But that’s not all!
I’m working in collaboration with my gal Annabelle, and you can check out her blog here. We reached out to friends and other bloggers to tell us a little bit about why they are a feminist. And guess what? This is only part one!
My next blog post will also be a collaboration with Annabelle about why WE are feminists, so stay tuned for that! For now, here’s a sneak peak…
Katiee: “I’m a feminist because first and foremost, I believe in equality. I believe in equal wages, equal rhetoric, equal dress codes, and equality in the workplace. I believe in ending rape culture. I believe in de-stigmatizing the period. I believe in women. I AM A FEMINIST.”
Annabelle: “I’m a feminist because I’m tired of seeing only men being taken seriously in the workforce. I’m tired of seeing women disrespected not only in the workforce, but also in the bedroom and in the streets. I’m tired of having to explain what consent is and still seeing girls raped and sexually assaulted. I’m a feminist because I believe in a woman’s power, even if others may not.”
Something about feminism is that everyone becomes a feminist based on different experiences they have. I’ve learned a lot from these ladies and their powerful language about feminism, and how they started being a part of the movement for equality.
First up, is Nicky Jacks!
“I’m a feminist for a seriously long list of reasons. The main being that I don’t want anyone in this planet’s level of success to be determined by their gender or the gender they choose to identify as.
I am a feminist because it genuinely makes me want to tear my hair out that the first question women are often asked when they have been raped is ‘what were you wearing?’.
I am a feminist because a natural bodily function such as menstruation should never make a woman feel dirty, embarrassed or weak. And I don’t want those woman who don’t menstruate or are unable to conceive to feel like failures either.
I am a feminist because I want to feel respected by the men i work with and claim to be my friends. And I also want them to feel that expressing emotion the way I do does not make them weak. It makes them human, just like me.
I am a feminist because when I go out I don’t want to rely on the ‘I have a boyfriend’ excuse to keep men undressing me whether that be mentally or physically.
I am a feminist because as a black belt in Taekwondo I find it offensive when I am told I punch or kick ‘like a girl’ as if it’s an insult.
I am a feminist because if I hear someone telling me to take catcalling as a compliment one more time I might scream.
I am a feminist, because I want everyone to have control over their bodies, identities and the path they choose to take in life.”
Check out Nicky’s blog here.
I also talked to Sophie Blakemore, who said:
“I am the granddaughter of a Nazi hunter and the first female head teacher of a secondary comprehensive school, the niece of one of the first female graduates of the prestigious Liverpool university architecture school and the daughter of the first female union representative at the Bank of England.
My father told me that I could be the best at anything I tried. I grew up on a horse farm and I saw that it was possible every time I competed against the boys in my contests.
I will never be able to thank them enough.
My family was ‘weird’ by most standards. A drag queen, a pro domme, a male feminist…they taught me that I could be me.
When I left home in 1993 a new distraction entered the mix. Boys. My father had just died and I wanted something that they just couldn’t provide – security. I had to learn to provide it for myself.
I was a feminist in the 90s. That was quite rare back then. We dropped the ball. We thought we had it all figured out. To be fair, things were very different back then. We took control of our sexuality. I remember walking back to my flat after a one night stand. I felt like I owned the night. Not now. Not at all.
As the new millennium dawned things seemed to shift. We wanted to be ladylike. Why I do not know. I even wore a girdle. I was thin as well. I voluntarily put my body in a vice.
My single friends started to notice a change.
Sex was demanding. The old ritual of unwrapping and missionary style sex the first time flew out the window. That’s tough as you approach 30. Porn had upped the ante… I’m sex positive but who doesn’t want to feel cared for the first time?
During that period I was trying to forge a career.
I was really competitive with men at work – because I looked young and liked fashion I was perceived as being lightweight and silly and I had to work twice as hard…but I would put my boobs on a bar to get served first.
Part time feminism at its best.
In 2010 I found out that I was pregnant…and I fell apart. I became a stay at home mum for a while. I hated it. I couldn’t win. I didn’t excel at all.
Ironically I really became an activist then! I realized that I could use my skills to generate awareness and change things for the little girls I adored. Actually I realized that I had to do that.
I did it in an odd order – body positivity, anger about pay inequality and the fact that mothers become invisible, hitting my sexual peak, the breakdown of my marriage, working with sex workers, drag queens and a man in the process of transitioning to womanhood – they all contributed.
Then my marriage imploded – and I had to become independent and provide for my family.
It’s been quite a journey. And a bumpy ride.
Motherhood changed me and feminism is amazingly valuable to mothers. Every single one. From the sexual act to the actual life you lead afterwards.
Contraception, consent, conception – all are political acts in a small but highly meaningful way to woman. The choices we have in life are limited by a lack of socioeconomic parity and the fact that men still control our bodily autonomy. We need more representation and we need to be taken seriously. We aren’t now and I’ll damn myself if I don’t do everything I can to change that for my daughters.
That’s why I’m a feminist.”
Follow Sophie’s blog here.
Next up, Michon Neal!
“Basically, I’m a feminist because it’s the only framework through which my life matters to the world, a world in which I am often assumed to not even exist, let alone have a right to.”
You can check out Michon’s blog here.
These feminist rockstars not only reinforced my ideals about intersectional feminism, but I also learned some new ideas along the way!
Go check out Annabelle’s blog post to read more rad ladies’ takes on why they are feminists!
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