You Do You-Terus: Lora’s IUD Journey, Part One

Hello, my feminist friends! This blog post is featuring my lovely friend Lora and her IUD journey. Scroll for more~

Hey everyone! My name is Lora, you can find me posting on the gram or blogging over at www.mylifeaslora.com!

Normally, I’m a travel and lifestyle blogger. However, I’m also an intersectional feminist and that’s something really important to me, too. The process of getting my IUD was something I wanted to share with everyone, especially the college aged girls that will probably read this, because I think it’s important.

Before I start in on the process, I just wanted to thank Annabelle from www.mixed-hues.com and Katiee from www.lifestartswithcoffee.com for letting me have a voice and allowing me to guest post on their beautiful feminist friendly blogs. <3

 

This post will be split into two separate posts. You’re currently reading Part 1 and you can find Part 2 on Annabelle’s blog.

 

Part 1 is all about:

  • How I found out about the IUD
  • Research I did to figure out how it was the right choice for me
  • Research on how to afford it
  • Who I talked to and what I learned

 

Part 2 is all about:

  • The process of getting one
  • How it feels after
  • How I feel now that I’ve had mine for six months

I’d also like to add that I am not by any means an expert on this topic. This is just my experience and you should definitely consult your OB/GYN or doctor before making any decisions. We all have extremely different bodies and different cycles. At the end of the day, you do you-terus (see what I did there? Haha… okay moving on!).

 

Why an IUD?

 

Since the 8th grade, I’ve taken oral birth control. I had extremely bad PMS as young as 13. It was painful and would often cause me to miss school. Once I got on the pill, I had no problems at all with my period. It became regular and I had little to no PMS symptoms. This was all fine and dandy until I realized a big problem – I had little to no sex drive anymore. When I did some research on it, I found that being on oral birth control for an extended period of time (3+ years) can affect your testosterone levels. This is due to the pill causing your hormone levels to stay relatively stable throughout your cycle. My low-dose birth control was no longer working for me. This fact, along with my concerns about the healthcare system under the Trump administration, pushed me to look into other options for birth control.

 

Making the choice

 

I went to my doctor to find out about my birth control options. She suggested that for me, I should look into an implant, IUD, patch, or shot. I had heard good things about the IUD implants so I asked her to tell me more about those specifically. An IUD is an intrauterine device and is considered the most reliable birth control method. It’s a small piece of plastic that is placed inside your uterus by a doctor and is good for years (how many years depends on the one you get). There is a copper one that is non-hormonal but my doctor did not reccomend this one for me considering my history with PMS symptoms. I ended up choosing the Lileta, but there are other options. From Planned Parenthood’s website, “The hormones in the Mirena, Kyleena, Liletta, and Skyla IUDs prevent pregnancy in two ways: 1) they thicken the mucus that lives on the cervix, which blocks and traps the sperm, and 2) the hormones also sometimes stop eggs from leaving your ovaries (called ovulation), which means there’s no egg for a sperm to fertilize. No egg, no pregnancy.”

 

Affording an IUD

 

For me, switching to an IUD was important because I wasn’t sure if my oral birth control was going to continue to be free under my health insurance anymore. As we know, the Trump administration is changing a lot about our healthcare system, and the future of birth control coverage is vague. My health insurance that I got through the marketplace doesn’t cover IUDs. So, I had to find my other options. For me, I found out that due to paying Minnesota taxes at my job, I was able to apply for a specific family planning program that would help me cover the cost of an IUD. I only found out about this program through the helpful employees at the Planned Parenthood in St. Paul, MN. Do not be afraid to ask them for help, they want you to be able to afford one. Without insurance or some help, an IUD can cost you around $1000.

 

My resources

 

In all honesty, most of my research was done off of Planned Parenthood’s website as well as just speaking with my doctor. I also reached out to some friends for their own personal experiences with their IUDs. All testimonials must be taken with a grain of salt (yes, that includes my own!). I would not recommend going on any forum sites for advice. I made that mistake and almost scared myself out of getting one!

To find out about the process of getting one, how it feels after, and how I feel now that I’ve had mine for six months, please click here to read part two!

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Random Facts About Me~

Photo above captured by: Sabrina Fattal Photography

Hello, my feminist friends!

I’ve been seeing a lot of my blogger friends celebrating their anniversaries with their blogs, and to tell you the truth, I’m not sure when I started blogging. I’ve had several blogs over the years, and writing is something I do naturally every day.

However, I think a lot of my content does not say all the nitty-gritty details about who I am. Sure, you see my passion for feminism and coffee, but there’s much more than that. As our little family grows, I’d like to share more about the human I am.

I also find this introspective activity to be positive for me, as I take the time to reflect on some things that I love about myself.

I got this idea from my girl Jordan’s latest blog post, which you can read here. (Highly recommend!)

So, here it goes…

1. I’ve been eating a plant based diet since July 2016.

SHOCK. I know, I talk about being vegan probably insanely a lot, but I’m not sure how much I’ve actually mentioned it on my blog. I originally changed to a plant-based diet because I have always struggled with migraines, and acne and I knew cutting out dairy would help both. Then gradually, I became passionate about being vegan for other reasons, such as: the ethical treatment of animals, health, and environmental benefits. However, I am not one to try to force my diet on others, or preach about being vegan. To each their own.


2.  I collect vinyl, magnets, and coffee mugs.

Truly there is nothing better in this world then curling up with a cup of coffee and putting on your favorite Bowie record, am I right? I love collecting things, and vinyl is my favorite way to listen to any record. Coffee mugs just come with the territory, I think, and I love having magnets cover my fridge to give it a little more personality.

3. My favorite genre of music is Alternative Rock.

From Nirvana to The Used to Walk the Moon, my music taste can be a little all over the place. Follow me on Cymbal if you’re interested in that (@rosecafletic). Music is a huge part of my life, and still to this day I would love to be a music-journalist, HEY ALT PRESS, ROLLING STONE IS THAT YOU? I spend my life collecting vinyl, going to concerts, and constantly driving and listening to new songs and old. Almost all of my inspiration in life is derived from Kurt Cobain. You get the picture.

4. My favorite thing in life to do is go to concerts.

Following the music theme, you probably will catch me at a concert in Atlanta 8-10 times a year. Concerts are my happy place, and no one can take that from me. The feeling of seeing your favorite band live compares to no other.

Photo by Lindsay Thomaston

5. I was born on Leap Day (February 29th).

YES, I am only 5-years-old. Shocking, I know.

6. I LOVE Pickles!

This is probably a weird food to call your favorite, but it is mine. For as long as I can remember people have associated pickles with me, and I have received many pickle-related gifts over the years. They’re just so good!

7. I’m a Pisces, and I kind of love it.

I guess if you’re into zodiac like I am, you probably figured out based on my birthday that I am a Pisces. If you’re a Pisces, you know what it’s like to feel intensely and be an emotional wreck. You’re a dreamer, always thinking of the future. For the most part, I agree with the personality elements of the fishes, I just also am very organized and love to make plans, which contradicts a little bit. But hey, isn’t that just part of being a human?

8. I have a baby bunny named Florence. 

Yes, like Florence and the Machine. Isn’t she precious? I’ve had her since September and she’s 5-month-old.

9. My life pretty much revolves around Star Wars.

I’ve loved Star Wars for as long as I can remember. Carrie Fisher was one of my favorite humans to walk this earth.

10. I love all things… witchy.

Such as: incense, stones, tarot, sage, candles, Stevie Nicks. In that order.

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7 Last Minute Christmas Gifts For Your Favorite Feminist

Hello, my feminist friends!

I’m putting this post up a little late for December, but I was inspired by a secret Santa gift exchange I did with some of my fellow style guru’s over at @cfashionista, and I thought I would share!

One of my style guru babes is a feminist and I got her as my person to gift to. I found an adorable feminist gift on amazon and ended up buying one for myself. Thus, this blog post idea was born.

Here are some cute af Christmas (or any time of year) gifts for your feminist friends:

1. A Little Box of Feminist Flair

This is what I bought for Natalie and myself! It comes with feminist patches, and buttons of all of your faves, as well as cute magnets to boot! I was obsessed with this, and it was under $10! I created a feminist jean jacket out of it, and put the magnets up on my fridge. It also comes with a book that tells you a little more about the powerful women behind the pins and magnets.

You can grab the box here.

2. Nevertheless She Persisted enamel pin

I am obsessed with this pin! Besides the fact that it fits in with my rose branding, I can never have too many things that say “Nevertheless she persisted” on them! This little pin will be perfect for any look– and it’s also less than $10!

You can snag it here.

3. Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay

THIS collection of essays by Roxane Gay looks at politics, criticism, and feminism. I highly recommend this (and another book may appear on this list.) Part of being a feminist is being open to education and new perspectives– give Gay a chance, because it will open your mind and fill you will some fierce feminist-inspo!

Grab the book here.

4. Feminist Activity Book

While this isn’t a book for reading, it is a fun way to craft and smash the patriarchy at the same time! Snag this little cutie for something fun and feminist to do on a rainy day, or whenever you’re feeling inspired.

You can get this here.

5. Men Explain Things To Me by Rebecca Solnit

THIS BOOK IS SO IMPORTANT. In her essay, Solnit looks at what goes wrong in every day conversations between men and women, and WHY these problems are significant. All I can say is that you HAVE to read this essay. It’s intense, but truthful in the most powerful way.

You can grab a copy here.

6. Face Masks & Other Relaxing Stuff

ArtNaturals Dead Sea Mud Mask - for Face, Body & Hair 8.8 oz, 100% Natural and Organic Deep Skin Cleanser - Clears Acne, Reduces Pores & Wrinkles - Ultimate Spa Quality - Mineral Infused Additive Free

Now, hear me out. Self-care and the treat yo’ self mentality is also a vital part of feminism. Taking care of yourself and give yourself time to relax. One of my favorite ways to do this is by putting on a face mask before bed and getting in my meditation zone.

7. Feminist Mug

Feminist Mug! That should be all I have to say! Honestly, you can find so many cute mugs on Amazon, but I love this little cutie because it has some of the best feminists on it for inspo while you drink you’re morning coffee (or tea, I suppose.)

Snag it

I’m obsessed with these items, and I hope you love them as much as I do!

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The Girl That Goes To Concerts

Hello, my feminist friends!

Today blog post, as per usual, is centered around something personal that I haven’t talked about much on my blog: concerts and terrorism.

What we see with these senseless attacks like Manchester is a rise of broken hearts. From the survivors, victims, artists, and people who find a save haven in going to concerts. There is a fear, now, at every concert that this show could be the one.

Going to concerts is my safe place. For a few hours, I am my happiest. I see the good in people, connect with thousands, hear songs live I had played in my bedroom while laying on the floor with incense burning. My heart over flows, quite literally with bass beats and drum solos. Tears fill my eyes when I see some of my favorite humans pouring their heart out on stage.

Being the girl that goes to concerts is my favorite description of myself, and I would be nothing without them.

I went to my first show when I was very young (I want to say 12-years-old?) and it was The Cheetah Girls ft Hannah Montana. I fell in love, and from that day forward the only thing I ever wanted as a gift was a pair of concert tickets.

Luckily, my step-mom has an identical taste in music to my own, and she became my concert buddy. We went to so many shows together. As I got older, I started to go with my friends and others. I would say I go to 4-8 concerts a year.

Each time, I have a small fear in the back of my mind that this show could be the one.

Concerts, music festivals, live shows, etc are not meant to be locations of terrorism. They are safe places, where you leave life’s problems at the door and come together to celebrate. We bond over our love for the artists, dance until our feet can’t move anymore, and sing at the top of our lungs. We are safe, there.

Or at least, we should be.

All I can tell you my friends, is be safe. Be proactive. Be observant. Don’t let you guard down and do everything you can to ensure you have a fun and safe time.

Love, be passionate, and look out for everyone, because you’re in this together.

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#MeToo: Why This Movement Is Important

Hello, my feminist friends!

As many of you who use Twitter know, #MeToo has been popping up everywhere the last week. This hashtag encourages survivors of sexual harassment to come out and share their stories, uplifting others who never could. #MeToo sprung seemingly in reaction to Harvey Weinstein’s sexual assault survivors speaking up about what he had done.

However, a decade ago Tarana Burke actually started the Me Too movement, and you can read more about that here.

What I want to talk to you about today, though, is the significance of this movement. Without disregarding Burke’s work, we can look at the movement as a whole and share stories to empower other survivors (yes, men can be survivors too) of sexual harassment and start to change the conversation surrounding sexual assault.

#MeToo is about sharing the interpersonal stories of horrible acts, because it can help someone. Someone out there who knows you knows now that you can relate to something they went to. That’s a powerful thing.

Most of the women I know have been sexually harassed in some form since they were teenagers (and younger.) I volunteer one weekend a month and work directly with sexual assault survivors: holding their hand in the hospital, talking to them, helping them to heal.

I work in a domestic violence shelter, where a lot of survivors often were sexually harassed as well.

I see this every day. I know how strong these survivors are.

#MeToo highlights the strength that our world has to uplift each other. We can make a change simply by saying two words.

I encourage you, my feminist friends, if you are comfortable– write out the hashtag, repost a picture, encourage someone to show their strength.

Sexual harassment, by definition, is: harassment (typically of a woman, but not always) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.

#MeToo is a way for people to start a conversation around SH and SA. This is important; it’s a conversation worth talking through.

Let’s do it together.

#MeToo.

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The F Word

Hello, my feminist friends!

Around a year ago, I wrote an article for Odyssey called “The F Word” but I felt compelled to write somewhat of an update here. In my previous article I wrote a lot about how feminism is not a dirty word, and the effects that the negative rhetoric of our society on rape culture. I reiterated my point over and over, and I think I need something a little more fluid. Without further ado…

Feminism. What does it mean? To put it simply, feminism is the expression of equality among the sexes. Men and women are equal. Right?

Then why is it, that when I tell people I am a feminist, they look at me with disdain? Why is believing in equality something that is so radical? Emma Watson makes it look easy.

In my opinion, the extremist feminists are the ones that give this radical example. They are “men hating” and “bra burning”, which is not the point of feminism. If you hate men, you are not preaching equality, and those “crazy feminists” are the ones setting the standard for the no-so extreme.

Thus, when I have conversations with some of my liberal friends they often tell me that while they believe in the concepts feminists talk about, they don’t identify with feminism. Why?

I’ve also heard the argument that we should change the word feminism to equalism– which I can understand. But my argument to that is, FEMINISM IS NOT A DIRTY WORD.

This rhetoric around dirty feminism has nothing to do with what we are actually doing. Preaching equality, is not something that is men-bashing. I believe that I can do anything a man can do. I am smart, educated, and talented. Why can’t I be a doctor or a journalist? Why can’t I make the same amount of money as my male counterparts?

THAT is my goal. Wherever my career path takes me, I AM going to be making the same amount as my male colleagues doing the same job as me. I AM going to be worthy of my position, and I AM not going to stand for any different treatment just because I was born with a vagina.

Feminism is not a derogatory word. It is a safe word. Feminism means equality for the sexes. Simply, we are all equal.

Just because we have different anatomy, we are equal. We are powerful.

The future, my friends, is female.

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Best Fall Fashion Accessories: JORD Wood Watches

Hello, my feminist friends!

Today, I’m going to be talking to you about JORD wood watches!

I love this gorgeous wooden watches, and the beautiful wooden box they came in; I’m super excited to be working with JORD. And, guess what! At the end of my post you’ll get a chance to enter a $100 giveaway with JORD! Even if you don’t win, you still get $25 to spend. How can you not enter?

 

Don’t you just love this watch? You can snag it here:  http://www.woodwatches.com/series/fieldcrest/maple/#rosecafletic

If you’re like me and fall is your favorite season, it’s about time to get cozy with your coffee and a good book! However, sometimes us introverts have to go outside, and these unique wooden watches are the perfect accessory for that! The women’s wood watches (and men’s too) are so elegant, while also providing a casual charm. I’m obsessed with mine!

These cool watches are a must have this fall season. I know these kinds of posts aren’t my usual content, but I wouldn’t be writing this if I didn’t truly love the product!

I first heard about JORD through Youtuber Channon Rose. She’s one of my favorite influencers, and also partnered with JORD for these cool watches. She often gets some of the wooden watches for gifts for her family, and with this giveaway, these wood watches would be the perfect Christmas gift!

Here’s the link to enter: https://www.woodwatches.com/g/rosecafletic

The contest will end on OCTOBER 1ST at 11:59 PM. Both the $100 and $25 codes will expire on DECEMBER 31ST.

I hope you guys love these watches as much as I do!

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Wooden Wrist Watch

 

 

Make a Change: The Pin Cause

Hello, my feminist friends!

Today I’m going to be talking about the rockstars over at The Pin Cause. If you haven’t heard of them, you need to check them out!

The Pin Cause creates the most adorable pins for $5, and the proceeds go to help out other various causes, which include:

  • Women’s Rights (Women’s March)
  • Earth
  • Win Like a Girl
  • Refugees
  • March for Science

I actually owned a Women’s March and Science March pin myself, before The Pin Cause sent me the other pins! I’m obsessed with them, and love to style them on my bags.

If you want to check out The Pin Cause and help them raise money you can here.

Keep an eye out for their new pin coming next week!

 

 

 

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Sunglass.la Lookbook

Hello, my feminist friends!

Today, I am putting together a little lookbook of 3/6 pairs of sunnies that Sunglass.la sent me! My friend Hunter and I braved the North Georgia heat to get these shots, and I honestly love how they came out.

Sunglass.la’s sunnies are really chic, and I was surprised how well they fit and at the overall quality of the glasses. Needless to say, I am obsessed.

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